real encouragement for real homeschooling moms

thoughts on the 36th anniversay of roe v wade

Jeannie was a young single mother raising three girls when she was first referred to me for post-abortion counseling. Everything about her said “I have no life purpose.”

During our first session, Jeannie told me her story. In her early twenties at the time, she had met the man of her dreams. A handsome and charming firefighter, Dan swept Jeannie off her feet and before she knew it, they were living together. When they discovered that Jeannie was pregnant, Dan suggested that they were not ready to be parents. Jeannie knew in her heart that abortion was not the right thing to do but she agreed to have one. On the day she aborted their child, Dan waited in the car, emotionally detached and angry.

In the following days and weeks, an “invisible elephant” moved into their home with them. The abortion was at the center of every argument they had. Jeannie was depressed and had lost any motivation for living. Dan suggested that they get married, hoping they could erase the past and start over.

Now Jeannie sat across from me, telling me of the bittersweet births of their children, a cruel divorce, her adultery with a married counselor, and her lost dreams of becoming a teacher. Would I help her? Could she trust the Bible to help her through her depression? Could she ever be used of the Lord in ministry to others?

Jeannie was like most of the women I have talked with who carry the secret of a past abortion. As a Christian, she felt unusable in the body of Christ. Self-condemnation and overwhelming regret visited her daily leaving her unable to live a full and abundant life in Jesus Christ.

In your church there are many women just like Jeannie. Did you know that:

– 43% of women who are 45 or older have at least one abortion in their past?

– 80% of these women suffer from what is known as post-abortion trauma that results in depression, anger, sexual dysfunction, drug and alcohol abuse, eating disorders, guilt, and many other behavior problems?

– 250,000 born-again evangelical women make the choice to abort every year?

– 1 out of every 3.5 women in your church have had an abortion?

– On the day of her abortion, each woman has 60 other people who are affected by that choice, including spouses, children, parents, co-workers, and fellow church members?

Charles Spurgeon once said “The Lord’s mercy often rides to the door of the heart upon the black horse of affliction.” I know of no other affliction in someone’s life where this is more true than the burden of carrying a past abortion.

During the years I spent listening to men and women tell their abortion stories, the one thing that I noticed is the pervasive nature of abortion. The cloud of it seems to hang over ever area of life. It is the invisible elephant in every room of the house, always present, always in the way, always there to stumble upon, though never mentioned. While other sins are forgiven and forgotten, the sin of abortion, even when confessed and forgiven, seems to cast a shadow that brings a quality of sadness and grief over its owner. How often I have wept over this fact.

If you are a Christian who is suffering from the choice of a past abortion, I hope that you will recognize this shadow for what it is….Satan’s attempt to rob God of His glory in your salvation! If this is your story, it is God’s desire for you to place this burden before Him. He wants you to live a life free from the burden of this sin, free from the pain of the consequences that it has brought into your life.

Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed,
Because His compassions fail not.
They are new every morning;
Great is Your faithfulness.
“The Lord is my portion,” says my soul,
“Therefore I hope in Him!”

Lamentations 3:22-24

Be sure to come back for this Friday’s podcast as I discuss some of the affects that abortion has had on men. Abortion has touched the lives of many homeschooling moms and dads and I so desperately want them to know that there is forgiveness, healing, and restoration through a relationship with Jesus Christ. Until then, here is something to ponder. Jennie was the one who introduced this song to me.



  renee wrote @

Hi Karen,

This is off-topic…
I thought you may be interested in this situation

Apparently the Patriarchs are deciding who is and who isn’t Christian enough to sell homeschool curriculum at hs conventions. I can’t help but think this is related to the “Leadership Summit” I am afraid this banning of hsing vendors will spread acroos the nation if it is not brought into the light.


  thatmom wrote @

Thanks, Renee. I will be blogging about this shortly. I believe this ought to be a warning to any homeschooling vendors who don’t “tow the line” so to speak.

  Kim wrote @

Hi Karen, Brad and I saw the move Last Chance Harvey this week. It was a very sweet movie, but we were really amazed that Emma Thompson’s character expresses regret for an abortion she had when she was young, and says how she often thinks about what could have been! YOu don’t see that in the movies these days!

  thatmom wrote @

Kim, it is amazing to me how the aftermath of abortion is being expressed in the culture today. Some artists are being honest and telling the truth about what happens to those who experience abortion, even if they are pro-choice themselves.

That Ben Folds song makes me weepy every time I hear it. Also, Tim McGraw wrote about the damage that abortion does in Red Rag Top, which took a lot of flack on some radio stations. I am so glad that at least there is honesty and people are beginning to understand the ramifications of their “choice.”
I think we only understand a tiny bit, the tip of the iceberg, if you will, of what this all has done to not only our generations but our children’s.

  Kim wrote @

I love Ben Folds….which song makes you weepy?

I am really longing to have a real conversation with you! I have sick boys today, all but Luke….so we are going to read aloud! We are doing Sonlight three and loving it!

Have a blessed day!

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